3 months

Brandon

John

Sorry it is a late entry but here are the boys at three months... we were trying to keep them entertained with their burp clothes

To Be or Not To Be...

Alone!

Alone with the boys that is.... The twins will be three months old next week and I still have my mom and my mother-in-law coming over every day to help with fussiness and feedings. I don't feel like I could ever do this alone. I feel overwhelmed and don't know when I will be ready to even try to be alone with them. Is this normal? Why do I think I can't do it? I am just scared that they will be crying at the same time and what will I do when that happens? How in the world do you comfort two babies at the same time?
They are doing great with tummy time and are getting some good neck muscles and should hopefully be holding their head up before they are four months old. Also they just got thier RSV shot and got weighed..... 12 pounds, up two pounds in one month!!!! Other than that we are just doing tummy time, playing on playmats, swinging, going on some walks, cuddling and feeding! It's the life

Family Visit

Granny and Brandon - Pa and John

Pa and Brandon

Brandon

Pa and John

John

Lacye and John

Granny and Brandon

Sleeping.... one of the few times

John

John during Tummy Time

The Boys

Brandon

John

Brandon during Tummy Time

Lacye and John

The Aunts

Granny and John

Brandon

What to do now?

The boys are awake more often during the day.... not that I don't try to get them to nap but most of the time they cat nap for about an hour between feedings. So what do we do the rest of the time. They like the bouncer that vibrates for about 10-15 minutes and same the swing. I really have not used the play mat or done alot of tummy time. Should I try that out? What should we do to help them be entertained and happy? The weather is now hotter so we can do walk in the stroller but we do have those baby bajourns (sp), should we try those out? I just want them to see the world. I am SO ready for them to be able to hold their heads up and find thier hands and start to engage. Right now we have seen smiles and some cooing. Pretty cool and and I will get pictures of that soon!

Figuring it out

Yesterday was exactly like the day before with the boys... Cat napped all day except for one time after eating in the middle of the day and slept all the way to the next feed. Then went to bed by 9:30pm and did not wake up to eat again til 1:30am then made it around 3 3/4 hours to 5:15am and now 8am. Not too bad!
I guess we are going to just love that schedule until they get a little older!

*Update*

I have to say I guess I was emotional yesterday morning thinking I was doing everything wrong. I think the boys just like to be awake in the morning. After their lunch at noon they slept in their crib for 2 hours until 3pm and even them we had to wake them to get them to eat. They were up and down the rest of the day but slept 4 1/2 hours between one of their night feedings and 4 hours between another. They sleep pretty well at night so I am pretty happy about that. During the day I know that they want to stay up longer and I am just going to do what I can but not be upset if I can not get them to go down at a certain time. Baby Wise is great in concept and we will use that concept but we can not be that strict about it and get upset when things do not work. So all in all we will try to get a good nap after every feed but if we don't it is not the end of the world and we can try again at the next one. I thank you all for your comments and I know Baby Wise works for alot of parents but right now we are going to do just what we can. I would rather them be up during the day more than at night anyhow.
my good friend Jenny just wrote this blog and I an taking this portion from her:
So here are some things that God has shown me through this:
1. Patience
2. I cannot control every situation
3. I have to trust the intuition that God has given me as a mother
4. He gave babies natural instincts so that they will grow and be happy babies and if we just listen to them it makes all of our lives a whole lot easier.
5. No one knows your baby like you do. Do what you think is best as your baby's mom.

Baby Wise

Awake time
I broke down and bought the book. I have not read everything but skimmed the chapters to see if I would like to try it.
Many of you know our twins were in the NICU for 4 weeks and got on a feeding schedule of every three hours from birth. So we did not have to find a schedule for them but we noticed that they fell asleep right after getting their bottle or during thier feed. Before Baby Wise we started changing their diaper in the middle of their feed to wake them up but after they were done we would hold them and then let them fall asleep. They were just too cute plus they are preemies and sleep is the best thing for them. After a few friends mentioned Baby Wise I decided to break down and buy the book and have read some, mostly about the eat/awake/sleep schedule. I have to say it makes perfect sense to have a baby play on a full stomach then sleep and not wake up till the next feeding. I don't really like having a fussy baby wake up 30 minutes before feeding (which we have). BUT it is sooooo hard to keep my boys up. Not all the time, sometimes they are wide awake but other times they just fall asleep and you can try everything to keep them up but they won't budge. So what do we do to keep them up for an hour to an hour 1/2?????? Even sometimes they won't go down at all and fuss the entire two 1/2 hours to three hours till they eat again. They are well fed so whats the deal.. any ideas? Also they talk about not letting them fall asleep in their swings.... well wouldn't you if you were being rocked, watching a mobile and listening to sweet music? I am at a loss how to keep them up after they eat unless they choose to themselves. Brian even mentioned after learning what this book says that we look like horrible parents because we don't do much of what it says or we even do it backwards? Is it too early for them to learn all this? They are two months old BUT their adjusted age is only around 2 1/2 weeks. I feel like I am going into this so blind that I am going to mess up. Brian and I have started putting them in their crib for naps now instead of in a swing or boppy lounger and they scream bloody murder for about 15 minutes and it breaks my heart but Brian has done so well in being firm with them. Sometimes it works and sometimes the screams get so bad I have to go in and hold or comfort them. I just don't know what I am doing. Any advice from you guys?